mothernaturesgift's Datingish

Double Standards

Tue, 04 Nov 2008 22:47:17 GMT

In my last entry I made the statement "I just want a little love!" Well, I got it and oddly enough I'm not very thrilled about it, but this is my own fault. Long story short, I met this guy a while back and ended up running into him again Halloween night. We had a really good time together that night and the next night he called and asked me to come over (the little red flag should have gone up in my head right there, but of course I was excited because, like I said, my love life has been crap for a while). So I went over and we started to watch a movie, one thing led to another and we ended up hooking up. I was pretty skeptical about it before we did it, but I have to be honest the foreplay was amazing, so I just couldn't resist. As it turns out, foreplay was the only thing he was good at because the sex sucked. He was a gentleman and cuddled with me in the morning and even offered to walk me to work when I left (we both don't have cars, we commute), but I said no and went on my marry way. I then realized that I had no intention of calling him back or even seeing him again. #1. He was cute, but not THAT cute #2. The sex was bad #3. He cared about money way too much #4. Our interests are completely different
The reason I didn't feel very thrilled about the whole situation is because I pretty much just had a one-night-stand and that has never been the type of thing I would do in the past. Although, after I typed that I just realized that I shouldn't feel guilty about it simply because guys do it all the time, and who says I shouldn't be able to do it too? I definitely do feel like there is somewhat of a double standard on women when it comes to this situation. It's pretty accepted for guys to have them, but why is it that females always get the "skanky/easy" reputation when they do it? Anyway, I think I would have been more excited about my one-night-stand if the sex hadn't been so bad..

A little history lesson about my love life..

Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:44:48 GMT

    My love life has been a very crazy up and down journey, but isn't almost everybody's?? I have had one serious relationship that lasted for 3 years (on and off) starting in high school and continuing in college. I would say this person was indeed my "first love" but we respected eachother's differences in major life decisions and went our separate ways.
    Other than him I have dated a variety of guys ranging from the stereotypical jock, to the frat boy, artist, musician, model, and yes even the nerd (funny thing is, he was the one that won my heart out of everyone). If it's not already obvious enough, I don't have a typical "type" as most people will say. I tend to give anyone I have an attraction to a chance. Obviously attraction is not the only thing that can make a relationship work, but there needs to be a certain level of attraction for one to like another, am I right?
    As of right now my love life has been pretty consistent in letting me down. I know I'm young and have a lot of time to try to find someone, and I'm not worried about that by any means, but I've been single for quite some time now and my sex life is suffering..this can be quite annoying (most of you have probably been able to relate at some point in life and can back me up here). I just want some love!!!

    I will post an updated version of recent relations to get you all up to speed as soon as I can, but for now this is it..

Saturday, November 01, 2008

Sat, 01 Nov 2008 19:38:33 GMT